Episode 32 | The Bloody Awful Joke and Friends With The Feels | Ironing Out The Kinks Podcast

🔥 Stags, CNC Consent Confusion, and Nose Ring Carnage 🔥

Welcome back to Ironing Out the Kinks! Episode 32 is here, and it’s a banger—this week we’re diving into cuckoldry versus stag dynamics, navigating CNC (consensual non-consent) when it doesn’t sit right with your partner, and multiple sex stories that include flying nose rings, lost butt plugs, and a rogue Alexa. Plus, we answer listener dilemmas on FWB situations turning into feelings, edging overload, and awkward bedroom jokes that seriously backfired. Let’s go! 😏

🦌 Stags vs. Cucks – What’s the Difference?

We kicked off this episode with a deep chat about cuckold fantasies, but not in the traditional humiliating sense. Instead, Luke introduced the lesser-known role of the stag:

🔹 Cucks = Often submissive men who get off on humiliation and degradation while watching their partner with someone else. 🔹 Stags = Dominant men who allow their partner to sleep with others, but from a place of pride and ownership, not shame. 🔹 Chelsea’s take: She loves the idea of being shared and appreciated while still feeling desired and owned by her man. 🥵

💡 Pro tip: If you’ve been intrigued by cuckold fantasies but aren’t into the humiliation part—you might be a stag.

🙅 Listener Dilemma: “My Girlfriend Wants CNC, But I Don’t Know If I Can”

A listener wrote in:

📢 “My girlfriend has a CNC (rape play) fantasy, but I’m worried I’ll feel like a monster. I’m into rough sex, but this feels different. I don’t want to lose her, but I don’t want to cross a line either.”

Luke and Chelsea’s advice: ✔️ Consent is everything—and if something makes you uncomfortable, you never have to do it. ✔️ CNC exists on a spectrum. From full resistance roleplay to light dominance like “shut up and take it”—there are ways to explore without crossing your personal line. ✔️ If it’s a fantasy for her, not a fetish, she may be happy with just imagining it during sex, or using it as dirty talk. ✔️ Don’t guilt yourself. Sexual compatibility matters, but so does honest communication.

💡 Pro tip: Do your research. CNC doesn’t always mean full resistance play—it can be subtle and still powerful.

💔 Friends With Benefits… or Feelings?

Another listener wrote in:

📢 “My FWB is getting clingy—texting more, cuddling, hinting at meeting my friends. I like him, but I don’t want a relationship. What do I do?”

✔️ Cut it off. Once feelings enter a FWB dynamic, it’s basically game over. ✔️ You’re not the bad guy. It’s kinder to be honest than to let it fizzle painfully. ✔️ Luke’s take: If your FWB knows your surname or your pet’s name, you’re in too deep.

💡 Pro tip: Clear boundaries = successful casual sex. Don’t mix “friend” with “benefit” too much, or someone’s gonna get burned.

⏳ Edging Overload – When Orgasm Control Goes Too Far

A listener wrote:

📢 “My boyfriend loves edging. Every time we have sex, it’s hours of teasing. Sometimes I just want a quick, hard fuck. How do I tell him without hurting his kink?”

Luke and Chelsea’s advice: ✔️ This is classic ‘communicate, communicate’ territory. ✔️ Balance is key—if you love edging sometimes but not always, he should respect that. ✔️ Suggest a mix: Text beforehand with your mood—"tonight I want to be edged" vs "tonight I want to be wrecked." ✔️ Reassure him: You love sex with him, just not that style every time.

💡 Pro tip: Edging is powerful—but only when it’s wanted. Sex should be fun, not a chore.

🤣 Oops, Wrong Hole – Piercings, Plugs & Period Puns

This week’s “Oops, Wrong Hole” stories had us crying laughing:

🔩 The Piercing Hook-Up: A listener’s nose ring got caught on his partner’s ear piercing mid-sex. Chaos. Screaming. Blood. The moment = dead. 💀

🎯 The Lost Butt Plug: Another listener described a plug so deep it went breech. The recovery mission involved full finger spelunking and actual crowning.

🩸 The Period One-Liner Gone Wrong: Mid-sex, covered in period blood, a listener joked, “the thought of you bleeding under me made me cum.” His partner did NOT find it funny. RIP that vibe.

📦 Alexa Cockblock: Just as a listener was about to orgasm, Alexa blasted: “Hello, your Amazon parcel has been delivered.” Followed by the kid walking in. Orgasm = cancelled.

💡 Pro tip: Maybe turn Alexa off during morning sex. And definitely leave the period jokes until after the deed.

👣 Would You Rather: Crocs or No Hands?

Chelsea’s dilemma of the week:

📢 “Would you rather wear Crocs every time you have sex or never be allowed to use your hands during sex again?”

🔹 Luke: Crocs. Hands are everything. You can accessorise Crocs. 🔹 Chelsea: Visibly suffering. She hates Crocs. But also… she needs those hands.

💡 Moral of the story: Crocs might ruin the mood, but no hands might ruin your whole sex life. 😅

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