Episode 31| Plucking the Rose and a Lightsaber Party | Ironing Out The Kinks Podcast
🔥 Porn & Brain Chemistry, Roleplay Giggles & A Foursome Fart Fail 🔥
Episode 31 is here, and this time, we’re getting deep into the effects of porn on brain chemistry (does too much actually mess with your dick?), the struggle of taking roleplay seriously, and an orgy confession that ends in the most poorly timed fart imaginable. Plus, we answer a dilemma about a lying boyfriend with a secret wife and break down how to navigate sensory play when it feels more stressful than sexy. Let’s go! 😏
🧠 Porn & Brain Chemistry – Is It Really Ruining Sex Lives?
There’s a lot of talk online about porn “rewiring” the brain and causing sexual dysfunction—so we broke down the facts.
🔹 Dopamine is the key player. It’s the brain chemical that makes us crave more of whatever we enjoy. 🔹 Porn provides instant gratification. Unlike real-life intimacy, which builds slowly, porn delivers a dopamine hit immediately. 🔹 Over time, this can lead to desensitization. Some people find they need more extreme content to get the same arousal, leading them down a rabbit hole of increasingly wild categories. 🔹 Porn-induced erectile dysfunction (PIED) is real. Some men become so accustomed to the fast dopamine rush of porn that real-life sex feels slow and unexciting, making it harder to get hard. 🔹 The good news? The brain can reset. Taking a break from porn (even just a few weeks) can help the brain relearn arousal from real-world intimacy.
💡 Pro tip: If you can’t get hard during sex but have no problem while watching porn, consider a temporary detox to reset your system.
Do you think porn is messing with modern relationships, or is it just fear-mongering? DM us your take!
🎭 Roleplay Fail – When Dirty Talk Turns Into Giggles
A listener wrote in:
📢 “My partner and I recently tried roleplaying for the first time. We got all dressed up, had a full scenario planned, and within two minutes, we both had the giggles and couldn’t take it seriously. How do people actually stay in character?”
😂 First of all, you’re not alone. Even seasoned roleplayers sometimes struggle not to laugh. ✔️ Start with light roleplay. Instead of full costumes and accents, try subtle dynamics like power shifts. ✔️ Do it in the dark. If you can’t see each other’s ridiculous faces, it’s easier to stay in character. ✔️ Use text as a warm-up. Sexting your scenario before trying it in person can build confidence. ✔️ If you laugh, go with it. Laughing during sex isn’t a mood killer—it can make things more fun!
💡 Pro tip: If your scenario requires elaborate backstories and accents, maybe simplify it for now.
Would you be able to keep a straight face, or are you doomed to giggle mid-roleplay? Let us know!
🙄 Listener Dilemma: “My Boyfriend Lied About Being Married”
A listener wrote in:
📢 “I found out my boyfriend has been married this whole time. He says he’s getting divorced, but I don’t know if I can trust him. Can this ever be fixed?”
🚩 Short answer? No.
✔️ He lied for a YEAR. Not mentioning it on a first date is one thing—hiding it for a full year is another. ✔️ He only admitted it when caught. If he was willing to lie for that long, what else could he lie about? ✔️ Once trust is broken, it’s hard to rebuild. Even if he’s telling the truth now, will you ever fully believe him? ✔️ At 23 years old, you have plenty of time to find someone who won’t gaslight you.
💡 Pro tip: If you’re asking if you can trust someone, you already have your answer.
Would you ever stay with someone who hid a marriage? DM us your take!
🧊 Sensory Play Gone Wrong – When “Spicing It Up” Feels Awkward
A listener wrote in:
📢 “We tried sensory play (blindfolds, ice cubes, light bondage), but instead of feeling sexy, I just felt anxious and out of control. My partner was super respectful and stopped immediately, but now I feel guilty. How do I tell them I’m just not into it?”
✔️ You already did the most important thing—communicating. You spoke up, and they respected your boundaries. ✔️ Figure out exactly what felt off. Was it the bondage, the blindfold, or something else? ✔️ Try adjusting instead of abandoning. Maybe you’d prefer being in control while they’re restrained. ✔️ Your preferences matter. If you don’t like it, that’s completely okay—sex should be enjoyable for both partners!
💡 Pro tip: If you’re feeling guilty, flip the situation—if your partner tried something they didn’t like, would you want them to keep doing it just to please you? Probably not.
💨 Orgy Fart Fail – The Most Mortifying Sex Confession Yet
We asked for your worst sex fails, and this one is pure gold:
📢 “I had a foursome with someone I see as a sibling. We locked eyes mid-thrust, I started laughing, and my body just… let go. I let out the loudest fart of my life.”
💀 Absolute nightmare. 💡 Pro tip: If you ever fart mid-group sex, own it, laugh, and move on.
Would this send you running, or would you be able to keep going? Let us know!
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That’s a wrap on Episode 31! Got a filthy confession, a ridiculous sex fail, or a kink you need advice on? Submit it anonymously at iotk.fun! 💌
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Until next time… stay kinky! 😈🔥