Episode 19 | Sorry, I'm Tied Up and The Super Keen Virgin | Ironing Out The Kinks Podcast
🔥 Buckle up, kinksters—this episode is a wild ride! 🔥
Welcome back to Ironing Out the Kinks! This week, we’re diving deep into Shibari, watching your partner masturbate, and some seriously chaotic confessions that will haunt your brain forever (in the best way possible).
Also, friendly reminder: If you haven’t submitted a confession, fantasy, or burning question yet, head to iotk.fun and spill the tea. ☕
🎭 Shibari vs. Tying Up – What’s the Difference?
🔹 Shibari = Japanese rope bondage, all about art, aesthetics, and precision knots. Think sensual restraint rather than full-on BDSM torture. 🔹 Tying Up = The less artistic, more “restrain and ravage” version. 🖤
Why do people love it?
Some enjoy the pressure and restriction, making orgasms more intense.
Others love the suspense and buildup—rope dragging across the skin, slow teasing, and ultimate surrender.
Suspension bondage is a whole next-level thing for those who love hanging out in a sexy way. 😉
Luke’s take? “I love control, but I don’t have the patience to tie 40 knots while my dick is ready to go.”
Chelsea’s take? “20 minutes of rope play before sex sounds hot as hell.”
If you’re curious about trying Shibari, attend an event or workshop before diving in—YouTube tutorials don’t cut it! 📚
👀 Watching Your Partner Masturbate – Why It’s Hot
Some people find watching masturbation even hotter than sex, and honestly? We get it. Here’s why:
You see exactly what turns them on. Watching your partner touch themselves = a masterclass in what they love.
It’s intimate. Most people masturbate alone, so being invited into that world? HOT. 🔥
Power play. Telling your partner to “just watch” while you take control? Big sexy energy.
Perfect for lazy horniness. Not in the mood for full-on sex? Mutual masturbation is the perfect middle ground.
Pro tip: If you’ve never done it before, just say “Don’t touch, just watch” next time you’re in the mood. You’re welcome. 😉
🍆 Naughty Corner: Sex Problems & Awkward Conversations
1️⃣ “My girlfriend gives bad head—how do I fix it?”
A listener wrote in saying his petite girlfriend struggles with blowjobs because she can’t fit much in her mouth, and her technique is a bit… teethy.
The solution? ✅ Teach her what feels good—gently. ✅ Get her to focus on stroking, licking, and teasing instead of deep-throating. ✅ Praise what she does well—positive reinforcement works wonders. 🏆
Most importantly: She clearly enjoys doing it, so a little guidance will go a long way!
2️⃣ “My boyfriend is checked out and addicted to porn.”
🚩🚩🚩 HUGE red flags in this one. 🚩🚩🚩
He met up with his ex behind her back.
He saved photos of her friends and exes to his phone.
He broke their vibrator using it on himself while watching porn.
He finished all their lube… also solo.
💡 Our advice? RUN.
This isn’t just about porn—he’s emotionally checked out, prioritizing everything except his actual relationship. If he doesn’t immediately change his behavior and prove he wants to be in this relationship, you deserve better.
🤣 Slippery When Wet: Confessions That Had Us Crying (Laughing)
💀 The Worst Virginity Story Ever – A 17-year-old finally lands a hot 19-year-old, she handcuffs herself, says “Do whatever you want to me”—and what does he do? Uses her hands to give himself a DIY handjob. 🤦♂️ Still technically a virgin. Tragic.
💩 The Reverse Cowgirl Disaster – First-time anal gone horribly wrong. Guy lifts his GF off mid-position and gets shat on.
🍆 Dildo to the Ass Without Warning – A guy’s about to climax when his hookup shoves a full-sized dildo up his ass without lube or consent. He leaves limping—again.
💨 Passed Out in Pussy – A guy passed out mid-oral session and woke up nose-deep in vagina. Not the worst way to regain consciousness. 😂
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