Episode 20 | Getting Cagey and Hottest Thing Said During Spicy Time | Ironing Out The Kinks Podcast
🔥 Friday is here, and we’re back with another filthy episode! 🔥
This week, we’re diving into chastity cages, paying for sex, and some of the hottest (and weirdest) things people have said during sex. Oh, and there’s a new discount code for Dirty Soap—because if you’re gonna get dirty, at least wash up after. 😉
💥 Kink of the Week: Chastity – Lock It Up, Boys! 🔐
Ever fantasized about losing control of your own dick? Well, that’s what chastity cages are for!
🔹 What is it? A cage that locks your penis away, preventing erections. Fun. 🔹 Why do people do it?
Pain + denial = HOT 🔥
Ultimate sub/dom power play
Control & tease factor (imagine your partner holding the key and sending you naughty messages knowing you can’t do a thing about it… 👀)
Luke is not convinced (his dick is already crying), but Chelsea loves the idea of holding the key. Would we try it? Maybe in ten years when Luke has recovered from the trauma of even thinking about it. 😂
💸 Paying for Sex – The Ultimate Transaction
Why do people pay for sex? It’s not always about desperation—sometimes, it’s just the best option for getting exactly what you want, no strings attached.
🔹 Common reasons people pay for sex:
No emotional entanglement 🧊
Kinks & fantasies that are hard to find in dating
Guaranteed experience (you’re paying a pro, after all!)
Trying something new without commitment
And before anyone starts clutching their pearls—sex work is work, and we’re all for safe, ethical, regulated services.
🚨 Listener Confession: One guy messaged in to say some of his best sexual experiences have been with escorts and that he would recommend it to anyone looking for something different. No shame. Just orgasms. 💦
🤯 Naughty Corner: Sex Dilemmas & Kink Confessions
1️⃣ “My boyfriend watches sissy porn, and I’m struggling.”
A listener is super vanilla, and her boyfriend recently opened up about liking sissy porn & wearing lingerie in private. She thought she could get used to it, but now she can’t stop thinking about it and it’s making her uncomfortable.
Our take? ✅ He was honest with you. ✅ He keeps it private and doesn’t push it on you. ✅ It doesn’t change who he is as a partner.
Give yourself time to process. This isn’t something he’s asking you to participate in, so it’s more about getting comfortable with knowing it exists.
2️⃣ “I want rougher sex, but my boyfriend won’t take the lead.”
A listener loves being choked, gagged, and manhandled but her boyfriend is hesitant to fully dominate her. She’s brought it up, but he never seems serious about it.
Our advice? ✅ Guide him during sex (saying “Choke me harder” goes a LONG way!) ✅ Praise what he does right (Ego boost = confidence = rougher play next time) ✅ Check if he’s even comfortable with rough sex—not every guy is, and that’s okay.
🤣 Confessions That Had Us Screaming
🥕 Carrot Thief 2.0 – A listener confessed that whenever his mother-in-law goes on holiday, he snoops through her underwear drawer, smells them, and wanks. 😳 Not judging (well, maybe a little), but if you’re gonna do it… at least grab them from the laundry basket for maximum effect.
🚛 The BlackBerry Affair – Back when BBM was a thing, a listener’s girlfriend’s mum started sexting him. A few months later, he was sneaking downstairs to hook up with her while his girlfriend & her stepdad slept upstairs. It was all fun and games until her little brother woke up, realized mum was missing, and woke up her partner. Oops.
🔥 The Hottest Things People Have Said During Sex
We found a Reddit thread where people shared the sexiest things they’ve ever heard mid-fuck. Here are our favorites:
🔥 “I want you to fuck me for the rest of my life.” 🔥 “Choose a safe word… so I can ignore it.” (Terrifying. Hot. We are not okay.) 🔥 “I decide when you’ve come enough.” 🔥 “Can you get me a towel? I don’t think I can walk.” (The ULTIMATE flex.) 🔥 Guy whispers “Hi” mid-stroke. (…Okay?!)
Which one’s your favorite? We still haven’t recovered from the safe word one. 🥵
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