Episode 9 | Don’t Call Me Daddy with A Kick and a Kiss | Ironing Out The Kinks Podcast
🔥 Filming, Public Sex, & The Most Awkward Bedroom Moments Ever 🔥
We survived the plague to bring you Episode 9! This time, we’re talking filming sex (and why it’s the top male kink), public sex (why women love it), and the absolute worst bedroom mishaps ever. Plus, we tackle listener dilemmas about partners refusing to experiment and one woman who is DONE pegging her man. Buckle up! 😏
📹 Filming Sex – The Top Kink for Men?
This week’s featured kink: Filming yourself during sex.
🔹 It’s part of exhibitionism, even if no one else sees it. 🔹 It feels performative, like starring in your own porn. 🔹 Some love the risk factor—what if someone found this? 🔹 Others just enjoy watching themselves in action (ego boost, anyone?). 🔹 Pro tip: If you’re worried about angles, invest in a tripod. No more shaky cam! 🎥
Would you ever film yourself? Or does the idea of watching it back make you cringe? 🤔
🌲 Public Sex – Why Women Love It
Did you know outdoor/public sex is the top kink for women? We break down why:
🔹 The thrill of getting caught. (Realistically, please don’t—getting arrested for indecent exposure is NOT sexy.) 🔹 The urgency. Fast, spontaneous, and raw. 🔹 The secrecy. That “we’re being so bad” feeling is a huge turn-on. 🔹 It doesn’t have to be full-on sex. A quick grope under the table or sneaky bathroom action counts!
🚗 Most common public sex spots:
Cars (classic choice!)
Woodland walks (far from the paths, people!)
Beaches (watch out for sand… everywhere.)
Nightclubs (because drunk decisions happen.)
Are you into the public thrill, or is the risk too much? Let us know.
🙄 Listener Dilemma: “My Partner Refuses to Try Anything New”
A listener wrote in:
📢 “I love prostate play, but my girlfriend refuses to try it. She also won’t touch my balls during sex. Any advice?”
🚩 BIG red flag: If she’s unwilling to consider your pleasure, is she really considering you at all?
✔️ Start slow. Instead of asking for a finger up the ass, suggest external stimulation first. ✔️ Explain why you like it. She might just not understand male pleasure anatomy. ✔️ Find out HER kinks. Maybe she has boundaries because she’s never been encouraged to explore her own desires. ✔️ If she’s a hard no… accept it. But also decide if a one-sided sex life is enough for you.
Sex is a two-player game. If your pleasure doesn’t matter to your partner, that’s a bigger issue than just fingers and balls.
🍑 Listener Dilemma: “I Tried Pegging My Boyfriend & Hated It”
A listener wrote in:
📢 “My boyfriend is into pegging. I wanted to please him, so I tried it. I hated it. Now he keeps asking to do it again, and just thinking about it makes me feel sick. How do I tell him?”
✔️ Be honest. Tell him you didn’t enjoy it and don’t want to do it again. ✔️ Offer alternatives. He can use anal toys on his own, or you can be involved in a different way (watching, guiding, etc.). ✔️ Reassure him. This isn’t about judging what he likes—it’s just about your personal comfort. ✔️ If he pressures you, that’s a problem. Consent is just as important for YOU as it is for him.
🔹 “Kick & Kiss” Method:
Kick: “I really didn’t like it, and I don’t want to do it again.”
Kiss: “But I know you enjoy anal play—why don’t we try a prostate massager instead?”
Sex should be fun for both of you! If you’re dreading it, it’s not the right move.
🤣 The Most Awkward Bedroom Moments Ever
We asked: What’s something your partner does in bed that you secretly hate?
Here are the best (worst?) responses:
🍬 The Lollipop Ball Sucker – A woman sucked her partner’s balls and pulled away, making a loud “pop” sound like a lollipop. She thought he loved it. He was dying inside.
💅 Manicure Mishap – A guy loves anal play but his girlfriend’s long nails turn it into a horror movie.
👅 Washing Machine Kissing – Someone’s partner just shoved their tongue in and left it there. No movement, no rhythm, just… marinating. 🤢
🛌 Melting Doggy – A listener’s wife always melts into the bed mid-doggy, forcing him to hoist her hips back up every 10 seconds. (Luke felt personally attacked. 😂)
🚀 The Space Launch Orgasm – A guy came and screamed “GOD BLESS AMERICA” before choking his partner.
💨 Deep Throat Confusion – A listener’s mum asked if she and her boyfriend “deep throat.” She thought mum meant making out. She said yes. (RIP.)
🐱 The Cat & The Condom Incident – A listener’s cat stole a used condom from the bin, tried to eat it, and choked. (Cat is fine, dignity is not.)
If you have a worse story, we NEED to hear it.
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That’s a wrap on Episode 9! Got a filthy confession, a ridiculous sex fail, or a kink you need advice on? Submit it anonymously at iotk.fun! 💌
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Until next time… stay kinky! 😈🔥